Well, Darling Daughter fired her doctor.
Miscommunication happens, it is part of life. Perhaps my daughter was not as clear of mind as she could have been, but then she does have neuro-Lyme and it seems that this great Lyme doctor should have taken that into account.
He refused the information that he requested of her because she used the word “still” in a sentence as an adverb, then he rebuked her for a lack of respect, and labelled her with the words "passive-aggressive", "reaction-formation", and "splitting". Now, while she is a sinful creature and less than perfect, this kind of response over giving the man her phone number is a bit much.
The whole “wasted time” thing could have been dealt with clearly in the first exchange and with no more hassle provided that the good doctor would have stopped for a split second and realized that his phrases without context or verbs were not clearly understood.
My daughter made the decision to write her doctor and let him know that she was no longer going to be his patient. She made it short, without emotion, and simply stated. She did not send of an un-careful response. Instead, she labored over it, read it to us several times and shortened it to a few clear and concise lines.
After she sent the “you are fired” letter last night he came back twice, with more hard words toward her and demanded that she do as he wanted. And that was to email him without hostility. (Honestly, if you read this whole email exchange, you might think this guy is a bit loose in the marbles, because the ALL CAPS words are coming from him. She simply wrote matter of fact statements in all of her exchanges.)
Finally, this morning, I guess after going to the office and pulling out her file to write down what an angry and hostile person she was, he took the time to re-read that she no longer wished to be his patient. Amazing what taking the time to read what someone writes can do for understanding!
He gave her his best wishes and she is finally done with this saga.